At IHG® Army Hotels, we understand that deployments can happen suddenly. It’s a major life shift and something the whole family has to be ready for, even the kids. That’s why we’ve collected a few invaluable tips from military resources to help you prepare your children for the deployment of a loved one.
1. Explain it in their terms.
Everything from age to personality type can influence how to communicate this sort of news to a child. Tell your little one why the deployment is happening and let them ask questions. Answer as honestly as you can and make sure to stay positive and upbeat with every answer.
Information provided by Military OneSource.
2. Keep the conversation going.
Every kid will handle the news differently, so continue communicating with them. This open dialogue will help them process the change and restore a sense of balance and predictability to their life.
Information provided by the official website of the U.S. Army.
3. Try to keep your sense of humor.
Sure, deployment is hard on everyone, but that’s why it’s so important to keep smiling. Laugh when things don’t go as planned and look for little moments to have fun, like taking a random trip to the park or planning an impromptu get-together with friends or family.
Information provided by the official website the United States Marine Corps.
4. Let their community know what’s happening.
It’s natural for children to act different after learning of a family member’s deployment. Let their teachers and coaches know what’s going on in their life so they can better relate to what they may be going through.
Information provided by Military OneSource.
5. Let them know you love them.
Kids tend to be egocentric, which means the departure of a family member may be interpreted as a consequence for something they did wrong. Eliminate this misperception by letting the child know they are loved by both you and the family member leaving for deployment.
Information provided by the official website of the U.S. Army.
There’s nothing easy about a family member departing, but we hope these tips make the transition a little less challenging. If you’re interested in discovering more ways to help support your children through deployment, then check out this article from Military OneSource.
We relied on a number of official military sources to create this article. See the full list below:
“Supporting Your Children Through the Deployment Cycle”
“Communication is Key for Children of Deploying Parents”
“Tips for Helping a Child After Deployment”